Starcast Join the waitlist
Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Motes and Beams | Self-Deception and Marital Growth

Aug 25, 2026 · 33m

Coming soon to iPhone. Already have it? “Listen in Starcast” takes you straight there.

On this episode

About this episode

Most of us are far more aware of our spouse's flaws than our own. It’s easy for us outline exactly what they're doing wrong while staying strangely unaware of our own part in the very pattern we're complaining about. This kind of self-deception may feel protective, but when we stay focused on our spouse instead of ourselves, we keep our marriage from growing. In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Corey Allan of Sexy Marriage Radio to talk about her book, That We Might Have Joy. They discuss why changing a marriage is about behavior, not ideas, the higher and lower desire dynamic, and the pull to hide behind marital roles instead of revealing who we actually are in our…